12/15/2023 0 Comments I don t want to take your freedom![]() When we talk about what's wrong with schools we pretend not to see the elephant, and we talk instead about some of the dander that's gathered around the elephant's periphery. Or, if we think it, we at least don't say it. My parents get bad if I get 1 B on a test for one of my good subjects It was a B+ too. How could all these nice people be sending their children to prison for a good share of the first 18 years of their lives? How could our democratic government, which is founded on principles of freedom and self-determination, make laws requiring children and adolescents to spend a good portion of their days in prison? It's unthinkable, and so we try hard to avoid thinking it. We all tiptoe around this truth, that school is prison, because telling the truth makes us seem so mean. Everyone who has ever been to school knows that school is prison, but almost nobody says it. He's not the only one avoiding this particular elephant in the room. But here he writes a whole book entitled Why Don't Students Like School? and not once does he suggest that just possibly they don't like school because they like freedom, and in school they are not free. He can't help but know it everyone knows it. 'If freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter.' George Washington. Do not preach at each other or allow yourself to be preached at.Willingham surely knows that school is prison. Dont ever count on having both at once.' Robert Heinlein. When you’re negotiating beyond your contractual obligations, you’re negotiating preferences you're not priests or ethics professors debating moral duty. If you fall into it get out of it quickly. Our first response to our desire is “you owe me,” as if it is our duty to delight each other always. Our first gut response to disappointment is “you disappoint me,” as if our moral obligation to each other is to never disappoint. It feeds a sense of claustrophobia like your living with your grandparents. The biggest buzzkill burden in partnership comes from a natural human tendency to automatically translate our disappointment into shaming, and our preferences into duties. Don’t guilt-trip your partner and don’t be guilt-tripped. Don’t moralize preferences: Don’t let your partner shame you for your preferences. (Pablo Martinez Monsivais/Associated Press) Maybe America has. ![]() President Trump speaks before signing an executive order in the Oval Office. There’s freedom to be gained by not wishing things were other than they are.ĥ. Republicans take freedom away in the name of freedom. Accept it and either compromise or do things apart. ![]() Don’t wish your partner was more compatible. Don’t look for other options besides these three. There’s give and take compromise, or give and take space from each other. Either you’ll compromise to do what your partner wants or you’ll do your thing while your partner is off doing their thing. And dont miss these patriotic quotes and Bible verses about freedom to remind you. Sure, Y is fun, but it’s pretty hard to be happy about things like Y when Hillary is getting ready to take. X is great and all, but it’s pretty hard to enjoy X when the government has its hands in your pocket. How do you handle the inevitable incompatibilities? Two ways: Negotiated compromise or “parallel play,” doing things separately. Read these short sayings when you want to reflect on our country. Dont Forget to Enjoy Your Freedom as You Defend It. We come together from different angles, not perfectly aligned. Then you have your incompatibilities because no two people have the same temperament, life experiences, appetites, attitudes, and opportunities. You both like to do the same things, and you do them together. There are variations on all three but that covers the basic ways of making things run smoothly. ![]() Your ability to compromise on your incompatibilities.Just three ways to get along: In partnerships, you’ve got ![]()
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